Dominatrix Mommy Blogger and Women’s Sexual Wellness Consultant
Pre BlogHer13 Wrap-up
BlogHer starts in one week and everyone is in a full tilt lather about private parties and swag. It’s all about which private parties people are being invited to and which have the best swag. I feel for the newbies and bloggers who aren’t “big name” enough to be invited.
Disclaimer: I’m not cool enough to be invited to these private parties. Maybe they are full of unicorns barfing rainbows into glitter covered swag bags help by a half dressed Bradley Cooper. Perhaps I’m really missing out.
But even so, I’m pretty sure none of that unicorn barfed up swag is as amazing as the swag I’ve gotten at the last two BlogHers. That would be the friendships I’ve made. Not to sound all hippie and shit, but seriously. My friendships with women like ….
Aw crap. I started to write out all their names and then got paralyzed with fear that I would forget someone. Ladies! You know who you are! I will send out a special shout out to Queerie Bradshaw and Heckerty, who are going to be my roommates this year. And of course Liz Porter who I will be flying with (and entertaining EVERYONE on our 6am flight whether they want to be entertained or not) and Life With Roozle who I will be watching speak as a Voice of the Year, and the lovely Dresden Plaid who’s blog was one of the very, very first infertility blogs I followed for YEARS before I met her and now? We actually text each other like real friends! And not to mention all of the amazing women who work at BlogHer that I adore… dammit. Now I’m paralyzed with fear that I forgot someone important. Fuck it. You are ALL important.
Let’s just leave it at; I’ve met lots of fabulous women who I would never had the chance to meet if it were not for BlogHer.
So, while I’m happy for the people who are excited for their private parties and premium special unicorn barf swag bags that may, or may not have brushed against Bradley Coopers junk, no swag in the world will replace being able to txt a girlfriend in the middle of the night and receiving supportive txts right back. Having a place to crash in all those cities from which they hail is way better then a free blender. And no amount of free make-up will replace the hugs I’m able to get in person to go alone with all the cyber support they have given.
I’m not saying you can’t go to the private parties and get all the swag and still have these connections, I’m just saying, private parties and swag are not my top priorities. And it’s OK if they aren’t yours too. BlogHer hosts some kick ass parties where eveyone is welcome.
If you want a smaller gathering, organize a meet-up for like minded people. Post to twitter with the hashtag #BlogHer13, even (and sometimes especially) last minute and ask if anyone wants to get together for some quiet time and talk about something that you are passionate about. I promise you, that is how you will get the best, most memorable, longest lasting swag.
Disclaimer number two: If anyone can’t fit their rainbow barfing unicorn in their bag on the way home, let me know.