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Wee Weenie Wednesday
As a professional dominatrix, I’ve done a huge (heh) amount of small penis humiliation (or SPH for short.) When clients come to me, SPH usually one of several activities they are interested in. We talk about how these ideas turn him on, and discuss which words do, and don’t do the trick. We talk about how they like to feel when they are in their role. I’ve rarely been able to really dig deep into where these interests come from and how they manifest outside of the dungeon so I’ve decided to do a short series of interviews with several volunteers from twitter. Nothing big. Just a couple of small questions.
In addition to small penis humiliation, what other sexual games to you play, i.e. chastity or cuckolding? Which came first, those games, or SPH?
I’ve tried and continue to have fun with chastity, although the reality doesn’t quite live upto the fantasy, but i think a big part of that i have a distance relationship with my Miss, so i think it would be more fun if i were to live with or at least have regular real life contact with my keyholder as i think a big part of the fantasy of chastity for me is the teasing aspect which doesn’t work as well over the net. Cuckolding is something that has never really appealed to me and it’s also one of the few fetish’s which i have trouble understanding how anyone could be into it, but to each their own. SPH definitely came first for me, mainly because i learnt of it first.
How old were you the first time you found the idea of small penis humiliation? What was your first reaction to your discovery? Were you curious? Appalled? How did you feel about yourself? How long did it take you to be comfortable with yourself and the fact that SPH excites you?
I’m not really sure what age i was, but i’ve always known i was smaller than your average guy, i remember seeing an episode of Eurotrash on tv here in the uk when i was maybe 14 which had a part about bdsm and i realised it was something i liked the look of, and then i was probably 15 or so when we got internet and i started looking around at was out their which i think was probably when i found sph and decided it was something i was into, i wasn’t really appalled by it or anything like that as i was already interested in bdsm and thought of it as a kind of extension of that interest. i wouldn’t say i shout about my interests from the roof tops and none of my friends know about what i’m into but then why should they. I’ve never had the courage to bring it up with girlfriends though, as i’ve only ever hinted at the fact i like to be dominated and i think to most vanilla people that idea is far easier to understand than the idea that a guy might actually like to get sph.
Realistically, do you think you are on the small side? Does it turn you off if a lover compliments the size of your cock?
I’m under no illusions that i am on the smaller side, however since the internet i’ve realized i am a very long way from being truly small, i think i’m probably best described as just being on the small side of average or similar. it doesn’t turn me off when past gf’s have complimented me on the size of my cock, as i think most guys like to hear it regardless of if they’re into sph or not, but i must admit whenever any of them have said something i’ve never truly believed they meant it.
Does your partner know about your interest? If so, how did you start that conversation? If your partner/partners don’t know about your interest, where do you go to scratch that itch? Do you see Dommes or partake of phone sex? Or just fantasize?
i’ve never built up the nerve to bring up my interest in sph with past gf’s and the anytime i’ve hinted at bdsm etc.. it’s been met with “that’s something weird people are into” so i’ve left it at that, i think as far as scratching the itch then obviously the internet helps a lot with being able to find pretty much whatever kind of kink gets you off, very rarely i’ve used phone sex lines but i always find they tend to be a waste of time as most of the women on them have no real skill as far as fetish’s go so you just get a stream of cliche insults which kind of ruins it for me.
What words or phrases turn you on the most in regards to SPH. Which turn you off?
i think the biggest problem i have is with how pretty much every sph clip i’ve ever seen is made as though my cock were literally an inch long when erect, so when the woman is going on about it being smaller and thinner than her pinky it really ruins it for me as i know mine’s not. i think if there was someone who actually aimed their clips or at least made some of them aimed at guys who are just a little shy of average size they’d get a big following as from what i’ve seen that tends to be a lot of guys who are into sph and the guys who actually do have one or two inch’s erect tend to be few and far between, the other thing that tends to put me off is when they compare to a dildo that is the size of my arm and try to make out that’s a “real mans'” cock, again it’s just obvious exaggeration and takes me out of the moment. As far as what turns me on, i wouldn’t say i had specific words or phrases, more that if what they’re saying is believable and well written so they’re not just repeating insults etc.. so i guess i prefer them to focus more on talking about how i could never actually satisfy them rather than the specific sizes.
How do you feel about having other men involved in your play. Do you like to see pictures of men who are bigger then you? Do you feel a camaraderie with men you are your size?
i don’t really care for pics of other guys or other guys in general to be involved, i think it might work if it were a custom clip so they were able to compare a pic actually of me to other guys but that’s about it, it may be different if i were into cuckoldry at all though.
Where are your favorite places on line to look for SPH stuff?
again i don’t really have specific places, i tend to start with a google search and then just click links that look interesting and work my way from their and see where i end up. clips4sale is always a good bet but a lot of the time it’s hard to know what you’ll be getting from the clip and the search feature on that site is awful so if someone has 50-60+ pages in their store it’s almost impossible to find certain things unless you spend ages searching.
Is this something that you enjoy? Or do you sometimes wish you didn’t have this interest? If you could get rid of this interest, would you? Is the interest always there? Or does it come and go?
i think like most of my fetish’s it comes and goes, it’s like most things i think, sometimes i’m in the mood for sph, other times i’d rather indulge my foot fetish etc.. although those rare times you find a clip that involves all your fetish’s are the best. i’ve never really thought i would like to get rid of the interest as i see it as making the best of the situation “i might have a smaller cock, but at least being told that gets me off” lol, however i think as pretty much all men do i do occasionally think it would be great to have a bigger cock, conversely i’ve sometimes wished i had a smaller cock so that it was easier to find sph porn that i could relate too!
Does your interest in SPH ever effect your nonsexual life?
my actual interest in sph, no i wouldn’t say it does, however knowing that i am a little on the small side does affect my confidence, especially the first time i go on a date etc.. or the first time a new partner and i sleep together etc.. but other than that i wouldn’t really say any of my fetish’s effect my day to day non sexual life.
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