Sex is Complicated.

I work with both cis and trans women, and occasionally men to help them understand their sexual desires and express their sexual wishes and limits.

After spending twenty years as a professional dominatrix, I would like to share what I have learned about sexuality and human nature and help women develop skills to craft the life they want to live. While often this coaching involves the coachee exploring and learning to communicate their sexual desires and limits, I also help women figure out what is important and how to obtain it in other parts of their life as well.

As a dominatrix, I have worked with men, women and couples to help them realize and flesh out sexual fantasies as well as understand themselves more fully. This included exploring physical sensation as well as mental exploration. I have worked with people in pretty much every aspect of sexuality, from BDSM and fetishes, recovery from abuse as well as gender exploration. I know that no two people are the same, but at the same time, I know that no matter how alone or different you feel about your sexual situation, you are far from alone.

In 2013 I published an anthology of women’s sexual stories called Glitter. Real Stories About Sexual Desire From Real Women. Collecting the stories confirmed what I already knew, that women are complex sexual creatures. We have desires, but experience shame from them. We try to fit in and be a good girl, and feel broken when we don’t. We feel damaged from sexual abuse in a way that isn’t easy to explain to someone who hasn’t been through it. All of these things effect how we feel in the bedroom (or where ever you decide to get it on!)

If you think I might be a good match for you, contact me and we can set up a free 30 minute conversation to see how I can help you.