Approachable Kink and BDSM Education

I teach women and couples to discover, embrace and communicate their kinks.

For twenty years, as a professional dominatrix, I helped men learn about themselves and explore their fantasies.

Why should men have all the fun?

Your mission, should you choose to accept, is to

Read my blog for some kinky sex tips

I don’t post as often as I used to, but this is a good place to look around for sex tips, ideas or resources for your own journey. This is also a good place to learn about me and my approach to kink, and life in general.

Work with me one-on-one

I have have worked as a professional dominatrix for over two decades and always loved working with nervous newbies. I excel at putting people at ease and creating a safe space so they can open up and talk about the fantasies they’ve always kept to themselves. I offer one on one mentoring (video, audio or live and in person in my kink education space – Sub Rosa) so we can connect from anywhere in the world even if you aren’t in Portland Oregon.  I work with women, just like you, who are curious about kink, and don’t know where to begin. And yes, I work with couples, but always prefer to work one-on-one with the women first so I can fully understand their desires before adding male energy to the mix. And yes. I occasionally work with sincere men.

Join my women-only Facebook group for some girl talk!

This is where the action is! It is a private group – as in people can see that you are a member, but have no idea what we are talking about. I try to make the outside as generic as possible, so the women (trans women are women) inside can feel comfortable talking about all aspect of women’s sexuality, from learning about new technique, or how to talk your partner into trying something new, or how to process changes that happen to your body as you age. We operate under the idea that ALL of our life experiences contribute to our sexual needs and desires – and that there is no right, there is only what’s right for you.

Community Photo Day at Sub Rosa

Community Photo Day at Sub Rosa

Darling Propaganda Photography What's the word for it when you are excited, but terrified, so you put it off until...
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Dark Pin-Up Photography

Dark Pin-Up Photography

One of my business goals this year is to start offering photography and coaching combo sessions at Sub Rosa. I...
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Protected: Cruel Condoms and Cock Torment

Protected: Cruel Condoms and Cock Torment

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Over The Knee Spanking and Emotional Impact

Over The Knee Spanking and Emotional Impact

On December 12th I will be teaching an over the knee spanking class at Sub Rosa. In my over 20...
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Come Correct: How to Approach, Serve & Dazzle Dominant Femmes

Come Correct: How to Approach, Serve & Dazzle Dominant Femmes

Why is it some subs seem to get all the play, and you are sitting there watching and trying to...
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Protected: Ball Weights

Protected: Ball Weights

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Achievement Unlocked. First Class at Sub Rosa Taught!

Achievement Unlocked. First Class at Sub Rosa Taught!

Last night was the first class at #SubRosaPDX and it was in a word, AMAZING!
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Kink For The Curious Class

Kink For The Curious Class

An in person class for those who don't know where to start, but who crave a little adventure. Kink for the Curious is where you come to get the answers to all the questions you were too afraid to ask - taught in an approachable manner with wit and style, puns and humor.
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Get Out The Vote Giveaway!

Get Out The Vote Giveaway!

Go Vote! Help this country crawl out from the hole in which we find ourselves and possibly win an amazing butt plug!
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I’m done worrying about how my body makes you feel

I’m done worrying about how my body makes you feel

I posted this on Facebook, and feel like it needs to be shared here as well. Feel free to take...
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