Kinky New Year Goals

Kinky New Year Goals

I suck at resolutions, but that doesn’t stop me from trying. This year my resolution was to do at least 15 minutes of yoga every single day. Pretty simple. Right? I feel better, physically, mentally, and yes, even sensually when I do yoga.

Dec 31st. I did 30 minutes worth of yoga. Off to a great start!

January 1st. I was a little “too tired” to do yoga. That’s ok. Will start tomorrow.

January 2nd. 10 minutes into yoga, one of the baby rats gets out of the cage and runs up my yoga pants leg. Past the knee. Yoga comes to a halt, giggling and rat snuggling commences.

January 3rd through 9th. Thought about doing yoga, but no actual yoga has been done. Would that be zen yoga? Hmm.

I do much better at picking a quest, goal or bucket list item for my year. This years quest, which actually started investigating late last fall, is to visit a new strip club each month, and find the best strip club nachos in Portland. I’m pretty sure those are going to be the nachos at Mary’s Club, but I’ve not had the nachos at Casa Diablo, our local vegan strip club, which I hear are pretty amazing.

But I digress.

I know that for me, changing my daily schedule is next to impossible. I’m a creature of habit. But picking an adventure to pursue is something that I thrive on.

Beginning a new year can be a time to look at where you life is, and where you want it to be, then think about what steps you need to take to get there. The most important thing is to know yourself and know what type of changes you are truly capable of so you don’t set yourself up for failure.

If you have sexy goals for the new year, here are three ways you can sex up your new year.

1. Start Small. Pick one thing, a new toy, a new class, a new attitude. Each baby step out of your comfort zone is a step forward. Don’t like small? Go big. But not everyone can do that, and if you can’t, thats ok. Small steps forward are still steps forward.

2. Find an accountability partner. Even if it’s a friend on line, or signing up for that class. Find an outside stimulus that will help nudge you forward. Perhaps a sexual adventure mentor like me?

3. Just Do It. In the end, big or small, accountability partner or not, just take a deep breath, and take that first step. You want to meet other kinky people, but worry about signing up for the right class, or going to the right munch? Pick one, even if you aren’t sure it’s right for you, and go. Don’t get stuck waiting for the perfect event, class, party etc. It’s never going to be right. Just go. You might find something that is right for you on the way.

Shame is a huge hinderance when it comes to exploring your kinky self. Shame is a liar. Shame wants you to stay where you are, stuck, wistful, wishing. Make 2018 the year that you told shame to fuck off. 

 

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