Community Photo Day at Sub Rosa

What’s the word for it when you are excited, but terrified, so you put it off until it’s too late? Anyway, I’m not going to do that. I am excited! I miss shooting pin-up more then I realized until I started talking about doing it again and pulling out my lights and gear. But I’m also a bit terrified! What if no one liiiiikes me? What if I’ve forgotten how to put models at ease – something which I was really really good at. And, in my mind, the most important thing about getting a great shot. So, excited. Terrified. Not putting it off, I’m hosting a Community Photo Day at Sub Rosa this weekend. Spots are donation based and …

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Dark Pin-Up Photography

Ruby Vixen

One of my business goals this year is to start offering photography and coaching combo sessions at Sub Rosa. I used to own a pin-up photo studio ages ago, and miss that creative outlet. I think that being able to talk about your body issues and your kink interests, while working with a camera can be incredibly powerful and fulfilling. Think – actively working on creating your dominant or submissive persona and leaving with physical (or perhaps digital) proof of that persona as a powerful personal growth tool. I would love feedback from the women here. What do you think? Is it something you would be interested in? What would your expectations be? Is this something you would want to …

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I’m done worrying about how my body makes you feel

I posted this on Facebook, and feel like it needs to be shared here as well. Feel free to take what you need from this to share as you like, but please credit me. During the last year or so, I’ve had a hard time feeling like what I do matters. Why talk about embracing your kinks when the world is on fire. But something in me broke through that this week. Women are shamed for our bodies, how our bodies function, what our bodies look like and how our bodies make other people feel. Our bodies are out for other people to judge, comment on or touch and our feelings are disregarded, brushed aside and laughed at. We fight …

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Kinky Sex Tips For Curious Girls Manicure!

Remember those vulva nails that blew up your feed last year? That was Asa Bree at Fingerbang Nail Salon here in Portland Oregon. Last week, another amazing nail tech at Fingerbang used the art from my book to create another set of amazing nails! Squee!! I can not even tell you how excited I was to see this pop up in my feed. I’m really great at creating. At hiding in my office (or dungeon!) and creating. I’m not great at promoting. And by not great, I mean really pretty sucky. Actually very bad. So, when something like this happens, it’s really amazing to me. It’s amazing that someone else loves something I created enough to paint it, however temporarily, on their …

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Kink And Shame

What would you be doing right now if shame wasn’t holding you back?

Pussy Weight Lifting with Max Madame

Max Madame Pussy Weights

Despite being only 4pm, it had been already been a long day of solo parenting and running errands with my 8yo. I had just dropped her off at a birthday party and walked into my quiet house. Alone. I didn’t want to leave. I just wanted to lay on my couch and stare at Facebook. But I had pussy weight lifting class. I’ve never done it but it seemed interesting. Adventurous if you will. I didn’t have anyone to go with. I was going to be alone in a room full of half dressed women trying to lift things with my 48 year old, birthed four babies vagina. I pictured myself repeatedly shoving my yoni egg in my pussy only …

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Kinky Sex Tips For Curious Girls – The Dominant Lady’s Tea

Signups for The Dominant Lady’s Tea, my first class at Kinky Sex Tips For Curious Girls will begin shortly!   This class is a six week on-line class for the other fifty shades of grey; women who are interested in learning to be more dominant in the bedroom! This particular class is for people who want to discover their inner dominatrix and control their male play partners. Over six weeks, I will help you transform into a dominant goddess. I have selected each weeks topic to help build upon the last so that by the time you reach the end of the class, you will feel confident exploring your dominant side – and perhaps even feel more powerful and in …

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How BlogHer Changed My Life

About 6 years ago, I was home, consumed by depression. My husband and I had been trying to have another baby and spend pretty much every dime we had, and then some, on IVF only experience repeated loss and failure. I had envisioned my life living in our beautiful house on the hill with our two babies even though I had two of those things, and on paper, my life was idyllic, the absence of that last baby, and the repeated failures ate at my soul. I could barely enjoy the child I had because I was so exhausted from trying to carry on like everything was perfect. Which is really confusing, because as I just said, everything was very …

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My friends Are Disappearing

Sometime between 40 and 45 you wake up and find that you are invisible. You walk down the street and some guy hollers… at the 20-something behind you. You are angry at them, but you aren’t sure if it’s because they are hassling the 20-something, or because they aren’t hassling you. After all, you have spent your 30’s learning to ignore the cat callers. They you realize that maybe it wasn’t so much that you learned to ignore them, but you were too busy to notice that they had already begun to move on to the younger women. Not that you want to be cat-called. It’s just suddenly realizing that you are invisible. At first it’s a little scary. As …

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