In 2014 I was invited to be part of a Desire Map book club. It changed my life. For the first time, I was told that I was allowed to be the adventurous free spirit that I am. That it is my birthright. That nothing is wrong with me because the very act of trying to achieve success by societies standards had left me feeling a little dead inside. I stopped chasing societal obligations, and start pursuing things that really made me happy.
This may sound very “well duh!” especially coming from someone who had worked as a professional dominatrix for most of her life. And in my own mind, up until that time, I thought I was doing what made me happy. But what I learned was that I was doing things to make others happy, and finding myself feeling hallow, rather then fulfilled afterwards – mainly, trying to find a “straight” job and a normal, acceptable career.
Danielle LaPorte’s book, The Desire Map, not only helped me see why I wasn’t achieving happiness, but how to find out what would make me happy, and also, how to get passed the fear and guilt I felt at changing my goals and actions to suit my needs and desires.
Learning my core desired feelings (and needs!) helped me get the courage to relocate with my family to Portland Oregon and start living the life we wanted, and quit trogging through life in California trying to figure out why we weren’t happy. It helped me change my priorities as well as the focus of my business. It made me a happier, more content person.
That’s why I signed up to be a Desire Map facilitator and that’s why I’m excited to work through the exercises with you. I will be offering occasional wellness and adventure retreats which will include Sex Positive Desire Mapping. I will also be offering occasional on-line group workshops which will combine sexual wellness and empowerment coaching with Desire Mapping. If you can’t wait for those to start and just need to move forward now, I do offer one on one facilitation as well.
If any of this is striking a cord with you, click here to set up a free 15 minute consultation with me!